The word "toast" is of Latin origin
and referred to an actual bit of spiced, burned bread
which was dropped into a cup of wine to improve its
flavor, and to help absorb the sediment. In the 18th
Century, when communal baths were popular, a wag drank
to the health of a famous beauty from a cup of rinse
water. A light hearted lad standing nearby offered to
jump in with the lass, exclaiming, "I do not like the
liquor so much, but I should love to have the toast"
referring to the dampened damsel. Eventually, drinking
to one's health became known as drinking a toast.
All speeches at weddings are really toasts and replies
to toasts. Good taste requires certain rules be
Each toast and each reply should
be no longer than four minutes, three would be
One joke per toast, and it should
be at the beginning.
Slang or vulgarity should not be
One should not refer to the
honeymoon or the family the bride and groom may or
may not have.
One should not poke fun at anyone
Function and Duties of the Master
The speech should be brief, clear, audible, and it
should propose a toast or be a reply to a toast. The
speaker should be at ease.
The ritual of toasting is simple. Following the dinner
the Master of Ceremonies introduces the person who will
be giving the toast to the bride. The groom then
responds with thanks, and may then toast the bride's
parents, his best man, and attendants. The father of the
bride may then toast the bride and groom, followed by
the best man with a toast to the maid-of honor and the
other attendants. The groom or the Master of Ceremonies
may then propose a toast to the groom's parents, with a
reply to follow from the groom's father. It is then in
order for any other guests to propose further toasts.
The function of the Master of
Ceremonies is to ensure the orderly development of
events at the reception. From the time of arrival of the
first guests until the final statement following the
departure of the bride and groom, the Master of
Ceremonies should serve as an unobtrusive organizer.
Some of the major duties of the
Master of Ceremonies include:
Performing a final audio check
and setting for any microphone being used, before
the arrival of guests.
Directing all guests to the
Directing any special guests to
their reserved tables.
Announcing the dinner seating
after the receiving line has welcomed all guests.
Welcoming the guests on behalf of
the bride and groom and announcing the serving of
Introducing the person who will
Following dinner, introducing the
members of the head table to the guests.
Introducing the person who will
be giving the toast to the bride.
Proposing the toast to the
Inviting any further toasts
following the reply of the groom's father. calling
upon the best man to read any telegrams or messages.
Relaying, on behalf of the bride
and groom, any special words of thanks.
the introduction of any out-of-town guests, or if
there are many, an introduction of the special
out-of town guests, with a general acknowledgement
of all others.
Announcing the cutting of the
cake by the bride and groom.
Announcing the availability of
Announcing the start of dancing
and the bride and groom's first dance, with the
invitation for others to join in after its
Announcing the tossing of the
Announcing the departure of the
bride and groom.
Duties For The Master Of
Our clients MAY want to make changes TO THIS ORDER OF
DUTIES TO SUIT THEIR WEDDING, OR HAVE OUR OWN (Disc
Jockey/compare) TO ACT AS THEIR MC
STEWARDS SHOULD SEAT THE GUESTS, (or Have our Compare do
it for them).
THE ENTRY OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM (As soon as it is time
to bring the Bridal Party in to the reception)
THE (Disc Jockey) TO ASK GUESTS TO BE UPSTANDING TO
RECEIVE THE BRIDAL PARTY, (So that the (Disc Jockey) can
play there special tune for the entry.) OR IF THEY CHOSE
THAT THE WHOLE BRIDAL PARTY BE INTRODUCED INDIVIDUALLY,
THEN THE GUESTS CAN BE SEATED ONCE THE BRIDAL PARTY ARE
FULLY SEATED... once that has been done he/she will
introduce him/herself then with great pleasure (if that
the (Disc Jockey) is not your MC tonight) introduce your
MC to you and your Guests.
THEN ON BEHALF OF THE BRIDE & GROOM, THE MC FORMALLY
WELCOMES THE GUESTS TO THIS AUSPICIOUS OCCASION TO THE
WEDDING OF ____________________ AND EXPLAINS THE
PROCEEDINGS FOR THE REST OF THE EVENING.
SOME COUPLES LIKE GRACE TO BE OFFERED AT THE BEGINNING
OF THE MEAL, IN WHICH CASE THE MC WILL INTRODUCE A
NOMINATED PERSON TO CONDUCT THIS.
Today, Grace and/or Loyal Toast are Optional. If either
or both are to be said, the Newlyweds remain standing at
their places and the (Disc Jockey)/MC asks everyone
"Please remain standing for Grace, said by
____________________" (usually, the Priest who married
the couple). Grace should be very short, very simple.
HERE IF BRIDE & GROOM WANT, IS WHERE SOMEONE CAN GIVE A
TOAST, everyone needs time to relax and enjoy the first
two courses before the speeches begin.
THE MC WILL LIAISE WITH THE CATERERS TO FIND OUT WHEN OR
HOW LONG BEFORE THE MAIN MEAL WILL BE, AND THEN KEEP
CHECKING WITH THEM THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT ON EACH PART OF
THE MEALS FOR WHEN THEY WOULD BE SERVED.
FOOD IS SERVED TO THE BRIDAL TABLE, (Which is Optional)
WHICH IS USUALLY DONE AFTER THE GRACE HAS BEEN OFFERED,
THEN THE WEDDING BREAKFAST COMMENCES AND USUALLY
CONTINUES TO BACKGROUND MUSIC BY OUR (Disc Jockey) UNTIL
THE ENTREE, MAIN COURSE HAS BEEN FINISHED (& or also
WHEN DESERT HAS BEEN SERVED).
TOASTS AND SPEECHES
After main meal or desert is served (Which ever you have
decided), it's time for the speeches (PLEASE MAKE SURE
TEN 10 MINUTES EARLIER THAT YOU GIVE ALL GUESTS A
WARNING TO GO TO THE BATHROOM AS IT IS EMBARRASSING FOR
THE BRIDE OR GROOM TO DISAPPEAR DURING THE SPEECHES).
(Tell them to be Quick!)
MC or OUR (Disc Jockey) TO MAKE SURE THAT THE CHAMPAGNE
IS TO BE POURED OUT WHEN EITHER THE MAIN MEAL IS OVER,
(or when the desert is finished). (For a detailed list
on who say's what, when for a speech, see the speech
AFTER ALL THE PLATES HAVE BEEN REMOVED FROM THE TABLES,
THE MC WILL CHECK ON HOW LONG BEFORE CHAMPAGNE IS SERVED
BEFORE THE SPEECHES TAKE PLACE, WHILE THE STEWARDS ARE
CLEANING UP AFTER THE MAIN MEAL, STEWARDS ARE ALSO
SERVING OUT THE CHAMPAGNE FOR THE TOASTS, WHICH WOULD BE
WITH THE MAIN MEAL OVER AND THE PLATES ARE CLEANED OF
THE TABLES, THE MC WILL CALL EVERYONE TO ATTENTION FOR
THE SPECIAL SPEECH SEGMENTS.
THE SPEECHES IS NOW BEING CONDUCTED, AND WHEN EVERYONE
HAS CHAMPAGNE, NOW AT THE MOMENT ALL PROCEDURES FOR
SPEECHES WILL FOLLOW FROM THE SPEECH FORMAT SHEET (Which
is supplied by the Bride & Groom).
THE MC NOW PASSES THE SHOW ONTO THE (Disc Jockey) Where
the (Disc Jockey) will play more great music THIS IS
WHERE THE DESERT, IS NOW BEING SERVED TO THE GUESTS.
THE (Disc Jockey) NOW INFORMS EVERYONE THAT OF WHEN
COFFEE IS NOW BEING SERVED.
THE (Disc Jockey) WILL NOW INVITE UP THE BRIDE AND
GROOM, TO CUT THE WEDDING CAKE SO THAT MOST OF
FORMALITIES ARE FINISHED, AND THE (Disc Jockey) CAN PLAY
A SONG FOR THE CUTTING OF THE CAKE.
THIS IS WHERE THE MC NOW SHOULD THANK ALL OF THE
(CATERERS, VIDEOGRAPHER, PHOTOGRAPHER, AND OFF COURSE
THE Disc Jockey) FOR A VERY HELPFUL NIGHT.
THE PHOTOGRAPHER WOULD NOW LIKE TO TAKE PHOTO'S IN THE
FOYER, THE MC / or (Disc Jockey) CAN ANNOUNCE, IF ANYONE
WOULD LIKE TO HAVE PHOTO'S TAKEN WITH THE NEWLYWEDS ON
THEIR WEDDING NIGHT.
THE MC WILL INVITE THE BRIDE AND GROOM TO OPEN THEIR
THE (Disc Jockey) WILL HERE INVITE UP THE BRIDE & GROOM
TO DO THEIR BRIDAL WALTZ. FOLLOWED BY THE REST OF THE
BRIDAL TABLE, THEN THE PARENTS, THEN IF THERE IS ANYONE
THAT WOULD LIKE TO JOIN IN WITH THE DANCING.
THIS IS THE GAMES SEGMENT OF WHICH THE BOUQUET AND
GARTER IS ORGANIZED BY OUR (Disc Jockey), TO WHICH YOU
HAVE PICKED OUT A GAME OF SOME SORT TO DO FOR THE
BOUQUET & GARTER.
IN THIS SEGMENT THE (Disc Jockey) WILL THANK THE MC FOR
ALL OF HIS HELP TONIGHT AND WILL PROPOSE A TOAST TO HIM
ON BEHALF OF THE BRIDE, GROOM AND ALL OFF THE GUESTS
THAT ARE STILL PRESENT AT END OF THE NIGHT (Or it can be
done straight after the speeches if the (MC) isn't doing
any more work tonight)
THE FAREWELL SEGMENT ON WHICH THE (Disc Jockey) WILL
INVITE UP EVERYONE TO THE DANCE FLOOR IN EITHER A CIRCLE
or AN ARCHWAY FOR THE BRIDE & GROOM TO SAY FAREWELL TO
ALL OF THEIR GUESTS. WITH THE BRIDE AND GROOM GONE THE
(Disc Jockey) WILL CONTINUE TO PLAY HEAPS MORE GREAT
MUSIC TO THE END OF THE NIGHT, AND SAY GOOD NIGHT TO ALL
WISHING ALL GUEST A GOOD JOURNEY HOME.
THE FOLLOWING SPEECHES LISTED ARE ONLY GUIDES, WE DO
ENCOURAGE YOU TO ALTER THEM TO SUIT YOUR OWN INDIVIDUAL
NEEDS FOR WHAT TO SAY.
TOAST TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM: This speech is usually
made by a good friend of either family or relative who
is a good speaker. Sincerity is the key word here for
this Speech. "I have known (Bride) since .... She has a
lovely character (ATTRIBUTES) Etc. Her home life has
been ..... (PARENTS ATTRIBUTES) so it only stands to
reason that the Bride has some of the lovely, unselfish
characteristics of her Parents. I think the Groom is a
lucky man to have (Bride) to stand by his side because
etc. As for (Groom) he has / hasn't always been on the
scene, but over the past .... years he has proved to be
a wonderful husband and companion to (Bride). Let me
tell you a funny story about (Groom) .... etc. I would
like take this opportunity of wishing both (Bride &
Groom) the very best for their future happiness together
.... etc. LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, I NOW WOULD LIKE (Bride
& Groom) TO STAND AND INVITE EVERYONE TO DRINK WITH ME,
A VERY SPECIAL TOAST TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM!.."
RESPONSE BY THE GROOM: "I Would like to thank (E.g.:
JOE) for his kind words about (Bride) & myself, ON
BEHALF OF MY WIFE AND MYSELF (Guests usually applaud
Loudly)... We want to express our gratitude to many
people here for helping us celebrate this most important
day in our lives." PARENTS:.... (Bringing you both up,
their moral / financial support, their friendship and
love, for wedding breakfast, etc.) "We want you to know,
Mums & Dads, we both love you and really appreciate you
& Thank you sincerely for all you've done for us both".
FRIENDS:.... (How good it is to have them here. For the
vast distances traveled ( E.g.: Sydney - Hong Kong
etc.).) For their support, & the lovely gifts they have
chosen. "We can't wait to do some unwrapping!, please do
us the honor of enjoying yourself tonight". SPECIAL
PEOPLE:.... Minister... Person who made wedding cake...
Photographers, Car Drivers.. Caterers... Florist...The
Disc Jockey.. Forgotten anyone else?... Groomsmen & Best
man. "They have been a tremendous help in the smooth
running of our Wedding day today. Now last but not
least, (Bride) & I want to thank our lovely Bridesmaids,
who have been wonderful in helping (Bride). I'm sure
you'll agree that they look beautiful.
WITHOUT FURTHER WORDS, I'D LIKE THE BRIDESMAIDS TO BE
UPSTANDING AND IF EVERYONE CAN CHARGE THEIR GLASSES TO
DRINK WITH ME A TOAST TO THE BRIDESMAIDS, "LADIES AND
GENTLEMEN, TO THE BRIDESMAIDS".
RESPONSE BY THE BEST MAN: "Thank you (Groom), It has
been a pleasure for me to be your best man. We have been
friends for a long time, & I was delighted when you
asked me to stand in this role today. I'd like to relate
a little story about (Groom) ..... (Humorous or
serious). The Bridesmaids have also assured me that it
was their pleasure to assist (Bride). We have had a heap
of fun together today, but seriously, on behalf of the
Bridesmaids, the Groomsmen & Myself, we wish to offer
our best wishes an congratulations to (Bride & Groom).
We trust that they will enjoy a lifetime of love and
prosperity, be happy and be able to work through their
problems together. Hang in their, and invite us to your
Golden Wedding Anniversary. Thank you".
TOAST TO THE BRIDES PARENTS: The MC Calls on a Relative
or close friend of Bride's family, to propose a toast to
the Brides parents. "I have known (Bride's parents) for
many years now & our association with them has been one
of pleasure and respect. I am glad / honored to be able
to propose this toast to them.... (Relate briefly their
virtues and quality traits of character). With Parents
such as (Brides Parents), is easy to see how they have
produced a lovely daughter such as (Bride). I can only
recommend (Bride & Groom) that you take a leaf out of
your Parents book of life
IF I COULD HAVE (BRIDES PARENTS) UPSTANDING, WITHOUT ANY
FURTHER WORDS CAN EVERYONE CHARGE THEIR GLASSES TO TOAST
TO THE BRIDE'S PARENTS, "LADIES & GENTLEMEN TO THE
RESPONSE BY FATHER OF THE BRIDE: This is the fathers
chance to say all those things he has wanted to say
about his Daughter in public!, Guests expect him to have
a good say and brag if he wants to. He is usually the
one paying for the Wedding, after all!. "Thank you,
(Friend / Relative) for the kind words you said about my
wife & myself. Now what can a father say about a
daughter like (Bride) ?. She has been winding me around
her little finger for so many years now that.. (I'm
going to miss it?) (Groom), we are happy to welcome you
into our family. We've come to appreciate you as the
person who (Bride) has entrusted with her love, and my
wife and I want to wish you both every happiness. THANK
TOAST TO THE GROOM'S PARENTS: MC Calls on a Relative or
close friend of the Groom's family, to propose a toast
to the Groom's parents. This will be a similar speech to
the one proposed to the parents of the Bride. (Or
changed to suit on the night)
RESPONSE BY FATHER OF THE GROOM: This will be a similar
speech to the one by the Father of the Bride. "Thank you
(E.g.: Jim) for your kind words. We would like to add
our congratulations to the newly weds. We feel that we
are not losing a son, but gaining a Daughter. If I
myself could have chosen a wife for my son, I couldn't
have made a better choice than (Groom) has done himself.
We are more than happy to welcome (Bride) into our
family, etc... THANK YOU". LETTERGRAMS, Emails, Faxes
(The Old fashioned Telegrams) The MC calls on the Best
Man & Groomsmen to stand up and read the telegrams or
lettergrams. (Funny or not so funny ones received).
TOAST TO ABSENT FRIENDS Toast proposed usually by the MC
or a very good Friend or close Relative of the Bride &
Groom. "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN IF I COULD HAVE EVERYONE UP
STANDING WITH CHARGED GLASSES AND WE WILL HAVE A TOAST
TO ABSENT FRIENDS" "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN TO ABSENT
KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL SPEAKING ARE:
It's easy to see why most guides recommend that three
minutes is quite long enough for a wedding speech! keyed
up by wedding jitters, buoyed up by champagne, often
unaccustomed to facing an audience of people, every
speaker longs to do well, yet dreads putting both feet
in their mouth. And if you've never (or hardly ever) had
to make a speech before, it's easy to panic. The most
common traps are speaking faster than normal, stumbling
and adlibbing to cover up, and speaking well over the
three minute time limited. THERE ARE JUST FOUR KEYS TO
SUCCESSFUL SPEECH MAKING.
Keep it short, keep it clean,
learn it by heart. Remember to bring your notes and
don't be afraid to use them!
Use numbered postcard size notes
with one sentence or short paragraph printed in bold
clear writing on each. They don't get lost, they
don't rustle and they fit comfortably into a suit
Rehearsal is a must! Persuade a
friend to listen and watch, or use a tape recorder
and talk to the bathroom mirror.
Light humor and gentle jokes are
warmly received in any wedding speech, but be aware
of clumsy phrasing or risqué jokes which might
embarrass or offend any member of the wedding party
Clichés about the Bride in her
Nappies (or the Groom without his), innuendo about
previous relationships and mother-in-law jokes are
definitely OFF the wedding speaker's list (but you
have the choice).
Finally, remember you have lots of
friends among the guests, all of whom want your speech
to go over well just as much as you do!.....
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